WALIDAIN K HUQOOQ:
Aulad k Faraiz
*Allah Tabarak Wata'ala Qur'an me irshad farmata hai:*
*Aur aapka Rab hukm de chuka hai k tum Allah Ta'ala ke siwa kisi ki ibadat na kro aur ma baap ke sath achchha sulook karo. Agar tumhare paas unme se koi ek ya dono budhape ko pahunch jaaye to unko "uff" tak na kaho aur na unko jhidko balke un dono ke sath bade adab se baat karo. Aur unke saamne rehem dili se inksari k hath Jhukaye rakho aur Allah Ta'ala ke huzoor arz karo:*
*Ae mere Rab! In dono per raham farmaa Jis tarah inhone bachpan me mujhe(Badi rehmat aur mohabbat se)paala tha. (Qur'an: 17 : 23-24)*
*Jis tarah Allah Ta'ala Ibadat ka mustahiq hai usi tarah walidain bhi Husn e Sulook ke mustahiq hain Qk Insan ka haqiqi Khaliq aur Raziq to Allah Ta'ala hai magar uske zahiri asbab walidain hain. Is zimn me walidain ki khidmaat lajawab hai Qk insan tamam jaanwaro ke bachchon se kamzor aur nasamajh paida hota hai, deeger janwaron ke bachche Chand hafto aur Chand mahino me apne aap ko sambhaal lete hain Magar Insan ek taweel arse tak walidian ka mohtaaj rehta hai aur walidian ye saari khidmaat bagair kisi laalach Aur muawze k sar anjaam dete hain. Isliye unka huq banta hai k aulad bhi unki khidmat me hamesha Sar Garam rahe, bilkhusus jab we budhe ho Jaaye to koi aisa lafz bhi zabaan per na laye Jo walidian ki Dil azaari Ka sabab bane.*
*Imam Muhammad Ghazali ne walidain k adaab batate hue farmaya:*
*Bete ko chahiye k wo:*
*---Apne walidain ki baat gaur se sune.*
*---Jab we khade ho to khada ho jaye.*
*---Unka hukm bajaa laye.*
*---Unke aage na chale.*
*---Unki awaaz se apni awaaz buland na kare.*
*---Jab we bulaye to hazir ho jaye.*
*---Unki razamandi k liye harees rahe.*
*---Unke saath narmi se pesh aaye.*
*---Unke saath neki karne per ahsaan na jataye.*
*---Unhe tirchhi nazro se na dekhe.*
*---Unhe ghoor kr na dekhe.*
*---Unki ijazat k baghair safar na kare.*
Hazrat Ibne abbas (ؓ )se marwi he ke RASOOLULLAH(ﷺ) ne farmaya :Jo Saleh aulaad mohabbat ki nazar se apne walidain ko dekhe to use har nigah par Allah taala aik maqbool haj ka sawab bakhshta hai, logon ne poocha : agar din mein (1️⃣0️⃣0️⃣) martaba dekhe to? farmaya : tab bhi, Allah bohat bda he aur bda pakeeza he(yani har martaba dekhne 👀 ka sawab hajj maqbool ki soorat mein dega)🌹*
*🌹Walidain k baare me Allah k Rasool (ﷺ)ne aulaad ko mukhatib karke farmaya: "Wo dono teri jannat aur dozakh hain." Yani unko raazi rakhne se jannat milegi aur naraaz rakhne se dozakh k mustahaq honge.Qur'an e Kareem aur ahadees e mubarakah ne walidain ki khidmat guzari aur ita'at sh'aari ko jo ahmiyat di hai, uski roshni me her musalman par yeh zimmedari aa'id hoti hai k wo apne walidian ka umar k har hisse me amuman aur unki zaeefi me khususan matee aur farmabardaar rahe. Unki khidmat ko mojjab nijaat jane. Unke jumla e huqooq se inharaaf na kare.Kabhi unki zarurato se beniyazi na barte, balke khud apne aap ko aur apne mutalliqeen ko bhi unke ikram aur ahtaraam ka paband banaye. Khususan budhape me isi tarah unki khidmat bajaa laye aur dusro ko bataye jis tarah uske bachpan me wo iski parwarish aur naazbardi karte rahe.
*🌹Maloom hua k maa baap aulaad k liye shafqat aur rahmat aur muhabbat ka saaya hai.
*🌹Qur'an e Kareem me Allah Jalle Jalala'hu ne apne huq k saath unka huq bayan farmaya.Irshad hua: "Haq maan mera aur apne maa baap ka."
*🌹Allah Ta'ala hame apne walidian ki khidmat karne aur unki nafarmani se bachne ki tofeeq ataa farmaye🌹
*AMEEN*
*🥀WALIDEN SE HUSNE SULOOK KA HUKM 🥀*
*Allah ta'ala ka Irshad_e_garami he*
*{وقضی ربک ألا تعبدوا إلا إياه وبالوالدين إحسانا إما يبلغ عندگ الكبر أكديما أو کِلابما فلا تقل لهما أف ولا تنهزبقا وقل لهما قولا كريما واخفض لهما جناح الذل من الرحمة وقل رب ارحمهما كما ربياني صغيرا ربكم أعلم بما في نفوسكم إن تكونوأ الحين فإنه كان ل لأوابين غفور}*
*🍂Tarjuma: Aur tere Rab ne yeh hukm diya h iss k siwa kisi ki ibadat Mt kiya kro Aur Apne ma baap k sath husn_e_sulook se pesh Aao,Agar voh ya'ni Maa baap teri zindagi me budhape ko pahoch jayein,chahe inme ek pahoche ya dono(Aur inki koi baat tujhe na gawar guzre toh) inse kabhi "uff" bhi na kehna Aur na hi unhe jhadakna Aur inse khoob Adab se baat krna, Aur inke saamne shafaqqat se inksaari k sath jhuke rehna Aur yun Du'a krte rehna-Ae humare parwardigaar ! Tu in pr Rehmat farma,jaisa ke inhone bachpan me mujhe pala he (sirf zaahir daari nhi,dil se inka Ahtaraam krna)tumhara Rab tumhare dil ki baat khoob janta h aur Agar tum sa'aadat mand ho toh voh touba krne wale ki khatayein kasrat se mu'af krne wala hai
*Is Ayat_e_kareema me Allah jalle jalaluhu ne sab se pehle apni bandagi aur ita'aat ka hukm irshaad farmaya h k mere alawah kisi aur ki bandagi hargiz Mt krna,iske baad farmaya k apne waldein k sath husn_e_sulook se pesh aao- Aulaad ko yeh sochna chahiye k waldein na sirf mere wujood ka sabab hein balke Aaj mai jo kuch bhi hun,unhi ki barkat se hun, waldein hi hein jo Aulaad ki khatir na sirf har tarah ki takleef,dukh mashaqqat ko bardasht krte hein,balke basa Awkaat Apna Aaram o Rahat Apni khushi_o_khwahish ko bhi Aulaad ki khatir qurbaan krdete hein.
*Maa ka Mujahida : sab se ziyaada mehnat o mushaqqat aur takleef maa bardasht karti he, Surah ahkaaf me Allah taala ka irshad he :
﴿وَوَصَّیْْنَا الْإِنسَانَ بِوَالِدَیْْہِ إِحْسَاناً حَمَلَتْہُ أُمُّہُ کُرْہاً وَوَضَعَتْہُ کُرْہاً﴾(۲)ا﴾ (? )
Tarjuma : is maa ne takleef jhe kar use pet me rakha aur takleef bardasht kar ke use jna
hamal ke 9 mah ki takleef or is se badh kar wade hamal ki takleef, yeh sab maa bardasht karti he jab bachcha peda ho taa he to ab is ki parwarish ke liye baap mehnat o mushaqqat bardasht kartaa he sardi ho ya grmi sehat ho ya bimari🦠woh apni aulaad ki khatir kaabi ma’aash ki saubaton ko bardasht kartaa he or un ke liye kama kar lata he un ke upr kharch karta he maa ghar ke andar bachche ki parwarish karti he is ko doodh pilati he is ko garmi o sardi se bachane ki khatir khud garmi o sardi bardasht karti he bacha bimar hota he to maa baap be chain ho ja te he un ki neendain haraam ho jati he is ke ilaaj o mualja ki kha tir doctoron ke chakkar lagate he gharz walidain apni raahat o aaraam ko bachchon ki khatir qurbaan kar te؛ is liye Allah ta’ala ne jahan apna shukar ada kar ne ka hukum diya he wahin walidain ki shukar guzari ka bhi hukum irshad farmaya he sure luqman me Allah ta’ala farmate he :
﴿أَنِ اشْکُرْ لِیْ وَلِوَالِدَیْْکَ، إِلَیَّ الْمَصِیْرُ﴾ (۳)
Tarjuma : ke mera shukriya ada karo aur –apne walidain ka shukriya ada karo, meri taraf lout kar aana hain.
*Hazrat Ibn e Umar Razi Allahu Anhuma ka qaol :* *Hazrat Ibn Umar (RA) se kisi ne poochha ke maine Khurasaan se apni walida ko apne kandhe par uthaya aur baitullah laya aur isi tarah kandhe par utha kar hajj ke manasak ada karwaye, kya maine apni walida ka haq ada kardiya?* *To Hazrat Abdullah bin Umar (RA) ne farmaya : ”Nhi hargiz nahi, yeh sab to maa ke us aik chakkar ke barabar bhi nahi jo usne tujhe pait me rakh kar lagaya tha.*
*Allah taala ne walidain ke sath husn e sulooq ka hukm diya hai :*
*﴿وبالْوالدیْْن إحْسانا﴾*
*Yani un ke sath intehayi tawaza o inkisari aur ikaraam o ehtram ke sath pesh aaye, be adabi na kre, taqqabur na kre, har haal me un ki itaa't kre, إلا yeh ki wo Allah ki nafarmani ka hukm de to fir un ki itaa't jaiz nahi.*
*Surah Ankaboot me Allah taa'la ka irshad e grami hai :*
*﴿وَوَصَّیْْنَا الإِنسَانَ بِوَالِدَیْْہِ حُسْناً وَإِن جَاہَدَاکَ لِتُشْرِکَ بِیْ مَا لَیْْسَ لَکَ بِہِ عِلْمٌ فَلَا تُطِعْہُمَا﴾*
*Tarjuma : humne insaan ko uske maa baap ke sath nek sulooq karne ka hukum diya hai aur sath yeh bhi bata diya hai ke agar wo tujh par is baat ka zor daale ke tu aisi cheez ko mere shareek thehraye jis ke mabood hone ki koi daleel tere paas na ho to unka kehna mat maanna.*
*Hazrat Hasan(RA) ka farman : Hazrat Hasan(RA) se kisi ne daryaft kiya ke maa baap ke sath husn e sulooq kis tarha kiya jaye?* *To unhone farmaya : Tu un par apna maal kharch kar, aur wo tujhe jo hukum de uski tameel kar, haan agar gunah ka hukum de to mat maan.*
*Hazrat Ibn e Abbas razi Allahu Anhuma ka irshaad : Hazrat Ibn e Abbas (RA) ne farmaya ke walidain ke sath husn e sulooq me se yeh bhi hai ke tum un ke saamne apne kapde bhi mat jhado, kahin kapdo ka gubbaar aur dhool unko lag na jaye .*
*Budhape me husn e sulooq ka khususi hukum : Allah taa'la ne khaas tor se walidain ke budhape ko zikr farma kar irshad farmaya ke agar un me koi aik, ya dono teri zindagi me budhape ko pahunch jaye to unko "uff" bhi mat kehna aur na unse jhadak kar baat karna. Hazrat Thaanwi Rehmaullah ne Bayan al Qura'n me "uff" ka tarjuma "hun" se kiya hai ke agar unki koi baat nagawaar guzray to unko jawab me "hun"bhi mat kehna. Allah Rabbul izzat ne budhape ki haalat ko khaas tor se isliye zikr farmaya ke walidain ki jawani me to aulaad ko na "hun" kehne ki himmat hoti aur na hi jhidakne ki, jawani me badtameezi aur gustaakhi ka andesha kam hota hai; Albatta budhape me walidain jab zaeef ho jate hain aur aulaad ke mohtaaj hote hain to us waqt iska zyadah andesha rehta hai., Fir budhape mein aam-tor se zaeef ki wajah se mizaaj me chidchida pan aur jhunjhlahat paida hoti hai, baaz dafa mamooli bato par bhi walidain aulaad par gussa karte hain, to ab ye aulaad ke imtehaan ka waqt hai ke wo isko bardasht kar ke husn e sulooq ka muzahira karte hain, ya naak muhn chadha kar baat ka jawab dete hain, is moqe ke liye Allah Taa'la ne yeh hukum diya hai ke jawab dena aur jhidak kar baat karna to door ki baat hai, unko "uff" bhi mat kehna aur unki baat par mamooli si nagawari ka izhaar bhi mat karna .*
كُلُّ الذُّنُوْبِ یَغْفِرُ اللّٰهُ مِنْهَا مَا شَاءَ اِلَّا عُقُوقَ الْوَالِدَيْنِ فَاِنَّهٗ يُعَجِّلُ لِصَاحِبِهٖ فِیْ الحَيَاةِ قَبْلَ المَمَاتِ
aan bap ki nafarmani ke alawa allah jitne chahe gunah maaf kar deta hai, maan bap ki nafarmani karne wale ko marne se pehle zindagi hi mai allah saza deta hai
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